What I’ve been up to Lately..

Well hi there ūüôā

It’s been a wee while since my last post, and I have been pretty busy as of late – things to do, people to see – all that jazz.

where to start….

looking real professional before the interview…


I have it! After a bit of time trawling for jobs, I finally got an interview and I begin work this week. I will be working approximately 15 hours a week, in residential homes for people with intellectual disabilities. I have met most of the residents already, and they are lovely. I really look forward to starting to form relationships with my co-workers and getting used to the way things are done in the company. I also love fact that I get to continue my music work and they have been really accommodating of my other commitments.

bbq food just about ready to nom.


Last week, my Dad (Pappy) came to visit. I should have taken more photos, really, but I was so flat out I didn’t have time. He was here for 2 nights and we sure got a lot of quality time out of it. We went for a bike ride, played tennis, had a bbq, went out for dinner, ate bakery food, went for a drive, walked on the beach….no wonder I was¬†exhausted the next few days after! We had such a fun time, and I’m glad he is able to come back up for¬†Christmas¬†in a few weeks.


I have had a break from Pilates for the last 2 weeks, and in that time my hip has been playing up (I have some issues with my RHS hip, we think it’s a hangover from the congenital hip displaysia I had when I was born – that I didn’t know I had until last year). I am really looking forward to getting back to class tomorrow, that’s for sure. I have just started the 30 Day Shred programme. Today, will be my 3rd day of level 1. So far, my arms are killing me, especially the inside of my right elbow from all the weights work. I only have 3kg weights here at home, so I think I will have to alternate with something a bit lighter, such as some cans until I get a bit stronger. I thought if I posted that I was doing the programme that I would actually continue with the programme. I have taken some gross “before photos” which I will post when I feel comfortable, so in the meantime here is the least gross one…

modest before photo, post 1st day of 30 DS, 18th November.

Cleo and her ‘auntie’ Ness – my mother in law’s dog. Spending a lot of time with these bitches lately


Apart from myself being in a bit of a crappy mood as of late (probably¬†caused¬†by not being able to eat chocolate and lose weight), things have been pretty good! We seem to go through these ebbs and flows of things being excellent, and then a bit average round these parts. Being a step parent can still be difficult , and having a teenager in the house can be trying at times, but we focus on the positives, and I am pretty darn content with the routine of our lives. Home really is here in Wellington for us. I know we live a bit far out of town, but I love it, and I feel so lucky to have our little – albeit temporary – house on the coast. We also have some exciting news. We are on a waiting list for a puppy! We have been wanting another dog for a while now, and although people tell me just to have a baby, I say now…babies take a bit of time to¬†materialize¬†sometimes, and in the meantime lets have a baby dog!

Dad – to – be of the puppies we are waiting on.


I have had a few things going on in the last few weeks socially – the latest being attending a hens party for my friend Ruth on Saturday. It was a lovely day, with high tea and games. I’m really looking forward to the wedding, and am awaiting a dress I have ordered to wear. I love getting dressed up for special occasions, and have got my shoes sorted already….behold!

These are the shoes that I wore for my wedding ceremony, and I have been dying to have another excuse to wear them. I may have to do a bit of wearing in, though…

Well, so lots and lots of stuff has been going on. It’s been great keeping myself busy – things were getting pretty mundane being stuck in a routine, and now I am sent into a tailspin with all the things that are happening.


Hope you are all well and you have a lovely week!

xx Em.



Oh this photo cracks me up and makes me SO happy at the same time.

It’s a slow day at the office today, so I look inspiration from the lovely Danielle at Sometimes Sweet for this post. Sometimes it’s just nice to write about what you are doing, even when you aren’t really technically doing anything! That’s the story of my life at the moment, and I think I could make busy/lazy a trend/lifestyle.

Watching:¬†The Amazing Race, Australia. It’s the new My Kitchen Rules replacement in my life and it’s preforming well so far. Thank god for live record, etc, we have been able to record our favourite shows and watch them when it suits. So, to add to The Amazing Race we also have Homeland, Miami Ink (an oldie but a goodie), Parks and Recreation, Game of Thrones (Nic makes me watch it, but I am kinda getting in to it), and as lame as it is….police 10/7.¬†

Listening to:¬†The sound of a tuned piano! I finally got my piano tuned and have been playing a bit lately. Unfortunately she has some health issues, and I will have to pay for a refurbish in time, but I am happy with it being tuned a semitone lower than it is supposed to be in the meantime. I am currently looking through my Cole Porter songbook for easy songs to start with. Oh, and I have my first voice student coming this afternoon. Hopefully they won’t mind all the boxes around the piano!

Planning:¬†Lots of things! Some of which I can’t tell you about just yet..but soon I will be able share. Other things include applying for life insurance (joy of joys); planning christmas (argh!) in our new environment (I am so excited my Pappy is coming up for it!); looking at travel options for future overseas adventures; thinking of way of conning husband into getting me a french bulldog for christmas (anyone got $3000?)

Thinking about: As broad as it sounds, life. At the moment I am in a really reflective place so I just want to take stock of what I have in my life, and find ways to be the best person that I can. Oh, also I am thinking about the interview I had yesterday and whether it will work out (fingers crossed!)

Looking forward to:¬†Possible employment! And, my Dad coming to visit next week. I’m also excited to get the final touches on my new tattoo hopefully this weekend AND going out for brunch with Nic’s family for his brothers’ birthday.

Reading:¬†Shamefully, nothing. But I think blogs count. So, on my blogroll is Sometimes Sweet, Dainty Squid, Perez Hilton, ¬†Gala Darling, and the blogs of my friends. I am also doing a lot of reading on My Fitness Pal – one of the single most important things for me at the moment (operation: lose weight – so far, it’s working quite well and I am down 5 kilos last time I checked)

Making me happy:¬†The fact that I AM reaching goals; good news in many places; good friends that live close; red bush tea heaping me curb my caffeine addiction; sweet treats; family phone calls; hanging out with Cleo; waiting eagerly for my friends’ wedding festivities; the lavender in bloom outside my window; the weather getting warmer; possibilities that things are going to keep getting better and better for us.

Doing this has suddenly put me in a very good mood. I have had a headache for the last 2 days, and now I feel less tension in my face which has dramatically helped with the pain.

Life is good, you know!

Have a wonderful day,

xx Em.

The Job Hunt

I’ve had a lot of time to paint my nails…

Since moving up this end of the country, things have been a little quiet for me on the employment side.

I was extremely lucky to complete some wonderful work for a couple of months, but since that contract finished I am only working 2 hours a week.

Not quite enough, eh?

So – I am an active job hunter.

Looking for employment is pretty difficult. I have been searching on and off for about a month or so now, and i’m just getting to that stage where I am a little panicky….

Any jobs out there, Girl?

I was a bit more picky to start with. I have been wanting to set up a private music practice but have not had much success with starting things up. I have very little contact with a potential client base, so I thought I should perhaps look for something with a little more support, or something short term until more work in my chosen field (music therapy) comes up.

Today I have a job interview as a relief teacher aide, and I am really excited about it. Nervous, but good nervous. I know that by doing this it will really help us with our savings and save my sanity! I love being at home, but not every day doing housework!

So, hopefully by the end of the day I have a little more direction!

Fingers Crossed,

xx Em.

Positives/Negatives: Changing a Whinge into A Whinny!

As I first sat down to write this post I really wanted to have a vent. Lots of stuff is going on in our lives at the moment, and although I would love to spill my guts about everything, alas it is not to be. It’s not that I am totally in to keeping secrets, its just that some ¬†of the things that are going on in my head are not overly positive or important.

This is a post about letting go and changing negatives in to positives.

Negative: I screwed up a friendship

Positive: I’ve learned not what to do next time…

I tried to fix a friendship a while ago. ¬†It felt a bit like I had murdered something. I said something I regretted – which unfortunately came across as me being an insensitive bitch. ¬†That’s all i’m gonna say about that.

 Negative: I lost lots of hours at my work

Positive: I started dabbling in music tuition

For a wee while I gave myself the opportunity to wallow in my own pain. I lost financial security and a lot of self- worth. With all that free time I had acquired, I got the opportunity to be in the right place at the right time (online, on facebook), and got myself a sweet teaching deal. Out of that, I have doubled my hours and am getting paid more and working less hours.

Negative: I had to cancel a few things for our wedding

Positive: I didn’t go in to debt!

my work fell through right before our wedding. I sobbed, cancelled that appointment for my facial, and cancelled the unnecessary cupcakes for the reception. What came out of that was more personal touches at the wedding, and not a lifetime of regret through getting a bank loan!

Negative: I wanted the designer dog

Positive: I got Cleo!

I love Cleo. Although I really wanted a french bulldog, we could not afford a $3000 dog. Enter Cleo, bargain price purebred bullmastiff. Light of my life. I love her so so much I couldn’t imagine not having her around. My walks have never been the same since she came along.

Negative:Life may be changing

Positive: Life may be changing…..

My lips are sealed on this one.


The moral of this post has been…

Sometimes life is shit. sometimes you are met with annoying things. If Lana Del Rey comes on the radio, switch the station. Look for the opportunities to make things good. Allow yourself time to grieve, but get on with it. No one likes a whinger and too many people spend too much time feeling sorry for themselves. There is nothing worse that spending time with someone that complains constantly. So, stop it. Make a change and start viewing things in a positive way.


What a difference a weekend makes

Hi all
Well, I have been feeling a bit down in the dumps lately to tell you the truth. Life has been getting me down a bit, and I have found old insecurities shaking me up.
Living down at the butt end of the world can be hard, especially with being a social creature such as myself. I miss my friends, and they are scattered all over the world.
Nic doesn’t really like to go out much, and I don’t really have any friends here, but on the odd occasion that something social is happening and I am invited to partake, I am reminded that life isn’t always doom and gloom.
Invercargill is a small place, and that’s not always good. It can be a bit boring, but when you find yourself at the weekend being able to do the things you want to do with friends, then it really don’t matter where you live.
I went to a bar on Friday and ended up catching up with an old school friend and meeting a really lovely couple that we chatted to for hours. honestly, my throat was so sore from talking so much! I felt elated when I got home.
On Saturday the boys and I went for a 2 hour walk in the bush with Cleo. I loved it. I don’t think they did, but at least they were not whinging when we were walking! We came home and played risk for the rest of the day. Relaxing, and fun until I spat the dummy (there is only so many bad rolls a lady can take).
Today, I had the great surprise of an old friend coming over for coffee. She has got to be one of the busiest, creative people that I know, and after chatting with her for a while I feel SO inspired to do something creative. I don’t know what it will be, but I am going to investigate some ideas. I figure I am good at DIY, as long as I stay motivated to complete a task. I also think a makeover in on the cards. perhaps some new ink (I have had some ideas for a while now), although the last time I was tattooed I swore that would be the last time I would endure that kind of pain. It was on my ribs, though, and NEVER again will I get tattooed on my ribs. OW.

So, overall a good weekend. I have had a couple of possible job opportunities in the last few days, so I shall see if I can get something sorted and start taking control of my life.

Looking forward to the week and what opportunities it may bring for me.

Love from the deep south,

xx Em.

Oh my Gawd


I said it last time. SORRY!!!

I have been so superemly busy that blogging really has had to be put on a standstill.

For the next few weeks I was planning on having some time off from this page, but I think what I can do is this.

I can talk about 3 things. Wedding, Exercise, and Production.

Is that a good comprimise?

Here is a start. I have been working really hard on putting together a production for the school I work at. It has been very stressful, but a lot of fun. It has been amazing but I have been out of my depth for a bit, but after a small breakdown I got it together and things are looking a lot sharper than a week ago.

Exercise has been pretty much taken up my spare time. I have just signed up to a bootcamp, and I am trying so hard to get fit and healthy. I have hit a bit of a plateax right now, but I am hoping that things will come right.

The wedding RSVPS are JUST about done. Our wedding is much smaller than we thought it was going to be, but I am now embracing that – even though I did just about cry last night when one of my besties e¬†mailed me¬†to stay she couldn’t come. I am so excited to see those that can come though and can’t wait to party on with them.

Nic and I have been okay, but admittedly a bit stressed. Things have been pretty hard, with the loss of Nic’s dad still affecting our lives, a grumpy teenage boy inhabiting the body of the ususally ok teenage boy in our house, and the lack of luck on the job front. Things can get pretty hard, so we are looking forward to having a night away tomorrow in Dunedin. Nothing like a bit of drinking and dancing to get things chugging along again.

Okay, so with that I am going to sit back and watch me some Jersey Shore.


Hope you all have a puppy to hug!



The Best Way to Procrastinate on a Sunday.

Our kittys provide the BEST distractions from schoolwork.
I have been trying to work my way through a mountain of notes, and I am finally about done – about 3 hours later…with many stops along the way,
such as…


and then uploading to you tube

But, the house is clean (another great procrastination), the animals are happy, and I am really close to finishing all my stuff for the week. 4 pages to go, and about 5 hours to finish them in.

Hope you have had a happy sunday.


and in my spare time, I write songs about cheese.

Last night a friend reminded me I had to write her daughter a song about cheese.

Bell is my friends daughter in Nelson, and I had told her that she can’t eat cheese before you go to bed because it gives you nightmares.

Everyone that I know thinks this is true. I don’t know why, but it does. Cheese will make you have bad dreams.

This is something that Bell liked to remind us of to. It progressed it to “you can’t even THINK about cheese before you go to bed, or you will get nightmares!”

That  is what I did with my afternoon. Writing a song, about cheese, for Bell.

And now, I am going to eat some cheese ball. Because it’s the afternoon, and I still have time to digest.




Good Morning Petals.

I wake up this morning with quite a mixed bag of emotions today.

I have been gearing up to write this piece about gearing yourself up for a lifestyle change, and I am just not feeling it! I guess I am just sleepy, or have the Sunday blues or something. Anyway, I just don’t think it’s going to happen today. This week has been emotionally hard, as I am sure all you NZers out there can identify.

I am in to my 5th week of work now. I can’t believe time is going through so quickly. When I look back at the last few weeks, there is a bit of a pattern¬†occurring. I think I am in danger of getting a bit boring!¬†Work is going well mostly, and I feel like I am settling in well, although there are always things cropping up that surprise me. I am still, with a stone in my stomach, worried about the production at the end of the year, and the expectation that it is going to be amazing – as I have been told that all the other ones have been. So, it’s not really the production I am scared of, it is the pressure that goes along with it.¬†You therapists among you will be going “wait? where is the therapy in that activity?” That’s a good question, and hopefully one I will know the answer to when I am actually putting it all together. That in itself is a struggle for me.

The therapy work itself is great, staff are great, and I really enjoy spending time at work. That’s a good thing! I think I am just still getting used to work taking up all my time. I really¬†realize¬†that I live for the weekends and for after work time! I mean, god – if we HAD to work, would we? I think I would, just not very much!

We have started a competition at work, The Biggest Loser! We have just done one week so far, but it’s going pretty well! The aim for me is not losing weight, but getting back in to the good habits I lost a few weeks ago ūüôā

However, in my first week I lost 2.9 kgs by:

  • eating less porridge in the morning
  • having fruit snacks and good museli bars
  • halving my dinner portions
  • drinking black coffee
  • drinking lots of water
  • biking as much as I can

And that is about it! I do feel really good about it, and it’s good to be motivated again. Nic and I went for a big bike ride yesterday, covering the track from the Waihopai river, to the Estuary. It was really lovely, and a beautiful day!

So, life is getting more regulated. Is that a bad thing? No, not really. Is it boring? Probably. but that’s something I can work on.

I guess the thing we are really waiting on now is Nic getting a job, and my pay to sort itself out. I am not getting my full paycheck yet, so things have been really tight financially. I have a feeling once we get that sorted, life is going to get better.

Anyway, it’s almost not the morning now, so better get going.

And strangely enough, I feel a bit better now.

Seize life. If this week has taught me anything, we have to do just that.

(s0rry about lack of pics this week! I need to do something about that soon)




New Home, New Work

Image very heavy. The following photos show our ever evolving house. It’s even looking better than when I took the photos in the past few days. The first ones are from before our houseware arrived, and the rest are pretty self-explanatory.

And yes, the instruments are ALL in my classroom. YES, I have my own massive classroom.